Comments on: retail therapy, queens, homophobia

by: vAgue

Wed, 20 Jul 2005 05:44:14 +0100

well, actually ali I never said or meant that I judge them. Like I said, I might be (and am) perfectly ok with two guys being a gay couple, but not like it watching them explicitly together. Judging them is quite another thing altogether. All this is, is a statement about me, not them.
Fair enough, that instinct can be honed/altered with time, but I think it is a bit much to realistically expect to *ignore* gender

by: ali

Sat, 16 Jul 2005 05:53:37 +0100

closetalk, my condolances on the miniature “coming out”. But worry not. Not everyone can be average.

by: closetalk

Wed, 13 Jul 2005 16:03:47 +0100

ok, so this one is going to be a loooooong comment, rockstar, so bear with me.

last week, there was a gay party at bombay, and i decided to have a miniature ‘coming out’ party, and took along ALL my close strt frnds here - three gals and a guy. They were amused, shocked, supportive and quite thrilled (in no particular order) at de whole night! my frnd and i got on top of de podium and danced together, and i think some of de queens were a bit pissed at seeing a guy and a gal doing it together! lol..

but… having those guys over did make me look at de whole party anew. yes, we gay guys DO tend to go happy n free in a gay party - but i think how ‘free’ u go depends on what kind of a person u are. i dont think that ALL gay guys go all promiscuous and grindy every party - some guys do, and some guys don’t: some guys prefer to just chat, network, dance with pals, dance alone, have a drink, survey de crowd, etc. i think u get my point. come over bombay sometime, and i’ll show u how we vbombay boys do things!

by: Red Baron

Wed, 13 Jul 2005 14:37:50 +0100

Now see that’s why I love you so much, you were always the generous one! I can’t wait now for your visit, get to see my sibling and potentially be on a promise with her travelling companion it doesn’t get much better!

by: medussa

Wed, 13 Jul 2005 08:58:37 +0100

i admit that my instinctive reaction to the gay quandry was of ‘distaste’. But that got immeditely re-conditoned into acceptibility. And i really dont have the right to judge anyone jut on the basis of their orientation. heterosexual relationships are so messy anyways, so the heterosexuals really dont have the right to judge or evaluate or even validate the homosexual love/attraction. My gay boss was the only man i was comfortable working with.

“if only he had boobs and i replied that that had never stopped him before!”…good one rocky~

by: ali

Tue, 12 Jul 2005 18:03:12 +0100

My half bald younger brother got hit on by a pretty one in west hollywood. But then again that place is teeming with them so the odds are very good. I am still looking for my queen charming. One incident in a thrift shop doesn’t count because he wasn’t good-looking, stylish, rich enough.
I too don’t think it is a choice. Unless the person is looking for a life of pain. There is too much ignorance, and hatred around for such a life style to rationally choose it. And I know they are not going to flip but I am still trying to convert a couple of lipsticks.
Rockisimo, I am not gonna ask for it. Getting predictable ….. my ass.

by: rocky

Tue, 12 Jul 2005 15:11:43 +0100

baron, daaaahling, i’ll try and visit your part of the world with my well-stacked, generous-with-her-favors friend (she actually happens to be from there!) and let you have a go.

see the lenghts i go to for people i love?!

by: Red Baron

Tue, 12 Jul 2005 13:46:18 +0100

The difficulty for many men is that old fashioned ignorance again. There is also the question of jealousy. Whilst it is wrong to overgeneralise, as a rule gay men can often get on much better with women because the whole sexual tension is not there. This can make a straight man feel uncomfortable as he isn’t able to get along so well. Stereotypically gay men are seen as stylish, good dancers, charismatic and this is a threat to your average geezer.

I’ve never had a gay man proposition me but to be honest if one did I think I’d be pretty chuffed, anyone comes on to you it’s a little bit of a confidence booster and to appeal to someone who isn’t even your sexual orientation got to be a bit cool really.

The biggest problem of all tho’ is the lack of understanding of human biology and the belief that your gay man chooses to be so. Which is funny because I’ll bet no straight man ever remembers choosing to be straight.

And Rocky dahling will you stop going on about well-stacked promiscuous ladies without at least sending them over here, it’s more than a man can take you know. You never know they might take a look at me and be cured, and if not, well don’t say I didn’t try, I’ll just have to face the consequences of my actions with good grace!!!

by: ali

Tue, 12 Jul 2005 08:42:45 +0100

Chill Sin.
vAgue, instinctive reactions are developed. They can be controlled, even changed with a change in attitude. Look at it as two people getting it on. Don’t judge on the basis of gender, color, age, or species. It’s all good.

El Rocko, See! I might be gettin old but I’m not predictable.

by: Sin

Tue, 12 Jul 2005 05:32:28 +0100

Funny you should say that, vAgue…for me, the instinctive reaction to a man and a woman making out or getting it off in front of me is ALSO to be repulsed.

;)